“Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;”
Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV)
Forgiveness is free, but it’s not cheap. It cost Jesus Christ his life. And it’s also not easy. Forgiveness can only occur when the offended person volunteers to assume the debt and to not get even or seek revenge. That’s what Jesus did for us. And that’s what he calls us to do for others.
But how can you release your hurt? The Bible tells us there are three steps we can take to find freedom from unforgiveness.
Leave it to God. Give up your right to get even. Trying to get even only escalates the conflict. Instead, let God settle the score.
Heal it with grace. The only way to let go of your hurt is to grasp God’s grace. The Bible says, “Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;” Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV)
Bitterness is contagious.
Nail it to the Cross. The Cross is God’s answer to all your needs. Jesus died so you could be forgiven. He died so you could be set free from fear, bitterness, and resentment. There is no psychology, no therapy, no pill, and no self-help seminar that can set you free like the power of the Cross.
The Bible says, “Knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.” Romans 6:6 (NKJV).
Don’t be a slave any longer to the sin of unforgiveness. Release your grip on the person who hurt you. Do it every day if you must. No matter how often that painful memory returns, bring it to God, ask for his grace, and then leave your hurt at the Cross.