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Three Steps to Letting Go of a Hurt

Leadership
September 25, 2023 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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“Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;”
Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV)

Forgiveness is free, but it’s not cheap. It cost Jesus Christ his life. And it’s also not easy. Forgiveness can only occur when the offended person volunteers to assume the debt and to not get even or seek revenge. That’s what Jesus did for us. And that’s what he calls us to do for others.

But how can you release your hurt? The Bible tells us there are three steps we can take to find freedom from unforgiveness.

Leave it to God. Give up your right to get even. Trying to get even only escalates the conflict. Instead, let God settle the score.

Heal it with grace. The only way to let go of your hurt is to grasp God’s grace. The Bible says, “Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled;” Hebrews 12:15 (NKJV)

Bitterness is contagious.

Nail it to the Cross. The Cross is God’s answer to all your needs. Jesus died so you could be forgiven. He died so you could be set free from fear, bitterness, and resentment. There is no psychology, no therapy, no pill, and no self-help seminar that can set you free like the power of the Cross.

The Bible says, “Knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.” Romans 6:6 (NKJV).

Don’t be a slave any longer to the sin of unforgiveness. Release your grip on the person who hurt you. Do it every day if you must. No matter how often that painful memory returns, bring it to God, ask for his grace, and then leave your hurt at the Cross.

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7 Distractions That Should be Slayed or At Least Whipped into Submission!

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September 18, 2023 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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Ever notice your day seems to vaporize, and you wonder what happened to all your best intentions?

You’re ready to end the day, but you barely even dented your to-do list. As a result, you’re going to have to try to justify squeezing an hour of work in after dinner get, or just get up at a ridiculous hour tomorrow to try again.

Not only is that pattern unsustainable, but it’s also mysterious. You try not to have it happen again, but it does anyway.

So…what causes that? At the root of it is likely repeated patterns and behaviors.

There’s also another problem more leaders struggle with than ever before, and that’s distraction.

As research and experiments have shown, workers get interrupted as often as every 11 minutes during the workday, and it takes 25 minutes to refocus after each interruption.

The math doesn’t even exactly add up, but you get the point. That’s why it feels impossible to get anything done.

Slay these distractions today, and you’ll have a better tomorrow.

1. Push Notifications

Nearly every single app in the world starts off its relationship with you by asking, “Allow Push Notifications?”

Your automatic answer as a leader should be no. Every single time (except one…I tell you which exception I think you should make below).

You don’t really need to know every time someone sends you an email. Similarly, it’s useless to be notified every time someone comments on your Instagram.

Why? Well, think of push notifications as someone tapping you on the shoulder. If someone tapped you on the shoulder somewhere between 30-300 times a day every day, you would either tell them to quit or get a restraining order.

Every time your phone vibrates, that’s what’s happening.

And don’t think the people you’re in real life conversation with aren’t bothered by your constantly buzzing phone and your incessant need to check your screen. It’s hard to respect or follow a distracted leader.

Being busy isn’t a sign of respect anymore. It’s a sign you’re not managing your time or priorities well.

I disabled push notifications on my phone and turned on the Do Not Disturb on my devices a few years ago. I don’t miss the constant buzzing at all. Nor do my friends and family.

Instant notifications about your messages aren’t that important. Actually, I’m not actually that important. With all due respect, neither are you.

2. Text Messages

You’re probably thinking, I get the part about not getting notifications about Instagram, but come on, text messages? Miss those, too?

Here’s what I’ve done with my text messages. Before I tell you, know that I do not give out my cell number as freely as I used to do. Not a lot of people have it. Even then, I don’t want to be a slave to it.

So, I allow push notifications for text messages, but I keep my phone on Do Not Disturb, which means I don’t feel them or hear them.

When I’m ready to take a break, I pull out my phone and do a quick check. That way they don’t interrupt me.

But wait, you say, what’s if it’s a true emergency?

Well, if you’re waiting for a new kidney and the doctor is texting you that you need to come to the hospital right this second or you lose the organ, sure…keep your phone on.

The planet will keep spinning. I promise you.

And you will get more done.

3. Your Idle Curiosity

The challenge of working in an online environment is that the world is literally at your fingertips. 

And working in a home office makes it even more tempting to check the world!

The distractions are a click or tap away. It takes tremendous self-discipline not to go down the rabbit-hole of the internet, from social media to mindless Googling of things that really don’t matter, like the surface area of the sun or who invented the straight-razor.

Curiosity is a great thing, but idle curiosity that produces nothing…not so much.

We blame our office environment, co-workers, endless email, or whatever. But eliminate all those things, and you still have you to contend with.

I don’t need an enemy. I have one. It’s a perpetually distracted me. You don’t need an enemy. You have one. It’s a perpetually distracted you.

4. Inefficient Email

If you can’t totally escape email entirely, limit it.

Turning off push notifications is a great start, but it won’t solve all your problems.

Try changing your email practices from ‘always checking all the time’ (which is the default for almost all of us) to tiny pockets where you check it at different points in the day.

For example, try doing a small window of say 15 minutes in the morning to make sure nothing’s on fire. 90% of the time, things aren’t on fire.

Then come back to email at a set time later in the day and pound through it. Do it when your energy is a little lower and spend your best energy instead on the tasks that are most important to you that day.

The less time you spend on email, the less it will consume you.

Second, don’t manage or lead by email.

Here’s how it happens to most leaders. Someone thinks of an issue, so they send an email. Someone adds a thought, and they reply all.

A conversation that might take 5 minutes in person (or less) drags on through a series of useless replies that go on for days.

Here is a practice adopted by Carey Nieuwhof’s team that helped them.

First, don’t email people about everything. If you have an issue that could be just as easily handled by phone or in person, park it on a list.

Then, once you have a list of 5-15 items, do a simple 15-minute check-in phone meeting or stand-up meetings in person to handle them all. You’ll be way more efficient.

Similarly, if a direct report emails me something that’s not urgent, I’ll just ask them to wait until our weekly meeting with it. It can almost always wait.

If it’s truly urgent and there will be a lot of back and forth, pick up and phone and call or do a quick text exchange. People are always shorter on text than on email.

Not everything is urgent, so don’t treat it like it is.

5. We live in meetings, and our productivity dies in them.

Meetings are a huge distraction in a world where leaders often simply need to get work done.

If I’m not careful, I can spend half of my week in meetings, and most are virtual meetings… and have only a few hours left over for writing messages and leading what matters most.

Meetings expand to fill the time you’ve set aside for them. So just set aside less time.

6. An Open Schedule

Chances are you only write appointments with others and meetings in your schedule, right?

Big mistake.

Make appointments with yourself. Write in writing time, thinking time, date nights with your spouse, family time —everything you need to get done.

Why?

Then, when someone asks to meet, you can say you have a commitment. If it’s truly important, schedule them in during your next available slot.

An open schedule is a guarantee you’ll spend your time on everyone else’s priorities, not yours.

Conversely, a fixed calendar can fix your life.

7. Conversations without Purpose

Conversations can waste tons of time. And they happen all the time to leaders. Sometimes you feel trapped in one.

What do you do when someone corners you or gets through to you? Be pleasant and move on. You’ve got work to do.

Turn that 20-minute conversation into a two-minute conversation. Be pleasant, thank them, and if need be, tell them you were on your way to get something done. Then go do it.

If you work in an actual office, close the door or put a sign on the door that you’re doing focused work.

If you’re in an open office or even a home office, you can even devise a signal with co-workers or family members that lets them know you’re not free to chat.

If you can shut down meaningless conversations, you’ll ramp up your productivity.

Ideas adapted from Carey Nieuwhof

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Get A Grip…or Not!

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September 11, 2023 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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For each of us it begins in the crib.  How tightly we hold things like a pacifier or toy or “blankie”.  Sometimes our first two words are “no” and “mine!”

As we grow through each stage and phase of life, we find ourselves gripping a new object: a baseball ball bat, keys to a ca or home, our wallet, a job, a ministry, a relationship and even our independence. It seems the objects we grasp are endless.

For those who follow Christ, will experience His gentle but firm lessons of showing us anything we are holding tightly that is detrimental to our lives and His purpose.

He does not do this to be mean but be gracious. He knows what we need to relax our grip. He also knows the great things that happen when we release anything that has become more important to us than Him.

Moses’ Grip

Gripped in the hand of Moses was a simple shepherd’s staff. It was all he had, but it was his. But God knew what Moses didn’t. if Moses would relax his grip on his last object of independence, it could become a powerful tool in the hands of God.

The LORD said to him, “What is that in your hand?” And he said, “A staff.” Then He said, “Throw it on the ground.” So he threw it on the ground, and it became a serpent; and Moses fled from it. But the LORD said to Moses, “Stretch out your hand and grasp it by its tail”—so he stretched out his hand and caught it, and it became a staff in his hand—“that they may believe that the LORD, the God of their fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has appeared to you” (Exodus 4:2-5 NASB).

In Moses’ hand, the staff was only a stick. But it was his stick.

When Moses let go of the staff he was gripping in his hand, what he was holding became something powerful.

Something that could be used of God to deliver people and show the world God’s glory.

Something that could be used instead for a greater good.

In fact, the rod of man now became the rod of God. As Moses and God held it now together, it became a mighty instrument that even separated a sea for God’s people to cross.

So, Moses with his wife and his sons mounted on a donkey, returned to the land of Egypt. Moses also took the staff of God in his hand (v. 20).

What’s In Your Hand?

Is there anything you are unwilling to surrender to God, to give to His control? A job?

A relationship? Possessions? Health? Comfort? Popularity? A favorite habit or sin?

Remember, God is not out to take from you, but to use to its proper purpose all that you have. It would be good to stop right now and look down at your heart and hands. Ask the Lord to show you what you are gripping more tightly than you should.

If you surrender it to Christ’s control, you will find new power and purpose for your life.

The things in your life will become united with His plan.

But if you vainly hold on, you will discover one day that all you have is a stick.

Lord, let me cooperate with You as You mold and make me into the person You have planned for me to be. Help me to hold everything in this life with a loose hand—to quickly release anything You call for, knowing that when it is surrendered to You, it always becomes something better…and even more useful!

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If You Want to Be a Leader

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September 4, 2023 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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If You Want to Be a Leader

by Bill Elliff

It is in the heart of many of us to lead. There is something inside that long to help people around us move forward. If our motivations are right and this is not just for selfish gain or human recognition, it is usually a desire placed there by none other than God Himself.

God does not leave us without examples. He wants us to lead—in our home, our church, our business, our community—even more than we want to lead, and He has promised to give us everything we need. In fact, the most vital aspect of leadership is to have Him. And He has provided a way through His Spirit’s indwelling for that to occur.

One of the great, conquering leaders in the Bible was Joshua. Moses led the Israelites out of bondage; Joshua led them into the Promised Land. Each had their unique leadership qualities for the task assigned. Notice some of Joshua’s leadership qualities.

Leaders Lead

“How long will you put off entering to take possession of the land which the LORD, the God of your fathers, has given you?” (Josh. 18:3 NASB).

The people were dragging their feet on finishing the job of dividing the land. People need to be led. Leaders understand this and don’t mind the responsibility (and burden) of helping people get from one point to the next.

Leaders Plan

“Provide for yourselves three men from each tribe that I may send them, and that they may arise and walk through the land and write a description of it according to their inheritance; then they shall return to me” (Josh. 18:4).

Joshua sized up the situation and came up with a plan under the leadership of God. Good leaders know there need to be clear, workable systems in place to take people forward.

Leaders Remind

Joshua said to all the people, “Thus says the LORD, the God of Israel, ‘From ancient times …’” (Joshua 24:2).

Everyone forgets. Good leaders are redundant. Some may tire of hearing it, but it is necessary to remind people that they were nothing, that God saved them. They need to remember that without Him, they’re in bondage … that He is the deliverer.

Those we lead need the past to help them contextualize the present. A good leader always reminds the people, through the vehicle of the past, of who they are and who God is and how they must relate to Him.

Leaders Give Thanks

“‘I gave you a land on which you had not labored, and cities which you had not built, and you have lived in them; you are eating of vineyards and olive groves which you did not plant’” (Josh. 24:13).

The greatest leaders are the humblest. And the greatest barometer of humility is gratitude. Wise leaders know they may have contributed to the results, but God is the source of every good and perfect gift (James 1:17). Their humility drives them to acknowledge thanksgiving continually, verbally before God and those they lead.

Leaders Model

“As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD” (Joshua 24:14-15).

You cannot lead people where you haven’t gone. Good leaders don’t point the way; they lead the way by walking ahead.

Leaders Challenge

“Fear the LORD and serve Him in sincerity and truth” (Josh. 24:14).

Leaders are not afraid to call people up, to challenge them to higher steps and standards. They know that without such exhortations and goals, some will invariably settle for less.

Leaders Submit

“As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD” (Josh. 24:15).

Leadership is a great privilege and responsibility. But any leader in this life is only as good as their submission to the lordship of Christ.

There is only one perfect leader. All human authority is derived from—and the best leaders lead out of—human surrender and God-initiation.

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