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How to Offer Godly Criticism

Leadership
May 26, 2025 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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What if you’re the one who delivers the harsh criticism? Does your harsh criticism make others feel better or worse?

Criticism usually happens when one is corrected for doing or saying something wrong.

Critique is healthy; it strengthens souls, but sometimes it can weaken people. It occurs when harsh people abuse their critiquing power.

You can learn how to give godly criticism at work, home, school, and in relationships or when correcting a brother or sister in Christ.  It is usually best offered after you ask permission to speak into their life.  When you do so, they will often give it to you.

Godly ways to give criticism:

  1. Deliver it withlove and patience, not with any abusive words like profanity or name-calling). It never helps to tell the person they are no good or call them “stupid” for their mistakes and shortcomings. Whether good or bad, anything you speak to a person can show in their attitudes and actions. If you critique them with a good, honest, loving approach, you will likely see a more self-confident person. But if you constantly demonstrate no confidence in the other person, they will probably lack confidence in themselves and be slow to improve.

Remember, the Lord has you in their life to help the other person. Before you critique, ask yourself if it comes from a place of compassion, protection, and consideration to see them do well in life.

  1. Express appreciation. Point out the good even while critiquing.It is difficult to do, but not impossible. Pointing out the negative and leaving out the positive can leave the person on the receiving end feeling inadequate. They may think, “Seriously? I’m doing my best, but I’m still coming up short?” Remember to tell the other person how good they’re doing when offering critique. This can help increase their self-esteem.

Remember, when critiquing, look for the positive and address the positive along with the criticism. Tell what they did well but correct them on their wrong. It demonstrates to others that you have confidence in their abilities.

  1. Be truthful but not harsh. And don’t sugarcoat, either.The Lord wants us to lovingly “warn” those who are wrong (1 Thessalonians 5:14). He says to speak the truth in love…lovingly. He wants us to pray for those who are wrong, so their spirit can be restored.

When we warn, we must be honest and tell them they are in danger of His judgment and maybe disapproval from others. We must not be careless, and we must not sugarcoat our warnings. Sugarcoating is just as dangerous as being “reckless,” if not even more dangerous. Sugarcoating can partially prevent others from hearing the truth; they don’t get the full version of what they need to hear.

  1. Make sure the critique isconstructive and not destructive. Your words should be to add value to others and not destroy them. Look at how Jesus addressed those who were astray. Even though it offended them, He pointed out their sin and told them what they needed to do to improve and live better. He was patient, loving, and truthful at all times.
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Leadership

How to Accept Criticism

Leadership
May 19, 2025 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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“He who disdains instruction despises his own soul,

But he who heeds rebuke gets understanding.” (Proverbs 15:32)

Do you hate to be criticized? How do you feel when someone criticizes you? Do you accept it in a gracious manner? Or do you complain, feel inadequate, want to give up, defend yourself, make excuses, or even go on the attack?

It has been said, There is only one wat to avoid criticism: Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing!

Four Godly Ways to Accept Criticism (Whether Constructive or Unkind)

  1. Accept it joyfully and quietly. Don’t cut off the other person, complain, or give any excuses for yourself. It will make you look prideful (because you may very well be prideful), which is something God does not like. You must realize that you are not perfect, and part of being human is making mistakes and growing from them. No one is “too perfect” or “too good” to be criticized. Even Jesus, a perfect person to walk this planet, was not exempt from criticism; He took the most criticism! So, quietly receive the criticism without arguing and just genuinely say, “Thank you.” This shows great humility and will strengthen you to receive critiques over time.
  2. Be thankful for the criticism because, many times, God speaks through it. Ask yourself, what exactly am I being criticized for? Is it a personality flaw such as laziness or something else? Is this criticism about something in my life that isn’t pleasing to God? View this as a way to make you better.
  3. Ask yourself, is this critique helpful, more harmful, petty, or nitpicky? Is the critique something you really need? Ask the Lord to show you what you need to improve. Does the critique pertain to your character, work performance, or relationships? He will reveal and confirm what you need to improve on.
  4. Apply it! Criticism is there to help us and make us better. As painful as harsh criticism can be it still can be helpful. Even if the pain is for a moment, at the end of it all, you’d rather something be said than not!

If nothing is said, how can something or someone be improved? Take that “negative” and turn it into a positive.

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How to Get Out of a Spiritual Slump

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May 12, 2025 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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Spiritual ruts are common to every believer. Having been a pastor for over 45 years, I’ve discovered it’s easy to find ourselves in spiritual slumps—times when we don’t feel close to God, even as pastors. The same holds true for Christian leaders in ministry or business.

David experienced this in his walk with God. He wrote about it in multiple places in the Psalms, including Psalm 71: “O God, do not be far from me” (v. 12 NKJV).

We won’t lose our salvation when we go through these dry spells, but we will lose the enjoyment God wants us to have in our relationship with Him.

How will you know if you are in a spiritual slump?

First, you’re no longer focused on loving others. Your heart grows cold. You share God’s Word with others week after week, yet Jesus isn’t warming your heart. Ministry with others becomes a duty, not a delight. 

Second, you stop taking steps of faith. Your vision shrinks.

Does that sound like you? There’s hope. God provides some vital insights from 2 Kings 6 about what to do when you’ve lost your “cutting edge.”

In this surprising story, Elisha goes with a group of prophets to the Jordan River to get some wood to build a place for them to live. They take with them a borrowed ax head, which they lose. And so, in a sense, they lost their “cutting edge,” just like we sometimes do in our spiritual lives. 

The story teaches us four spiritual truths about what we can do when we’re in a spiritual slump.

  1. Admit you lost it.

You need to face reality. Start by admitting you’re not as close to God as you used to be. In 2 Kings 6:5, the man who lost the ax head admitted what he lost: “As one of them was cutting down a tree, the iron ax head fell into the water. ‘Oh no, my lord!’ he cried out. ‘It was borrowed!’” (NIV).

The man had options when he realized he had lost the ax head. He could have given up and let someone else do the work. We’ve all encountered Christians who do that. When they lose their spiritual energy, they step back and let others with more passion do the work.

The man could have left the impression he still had it. Like a Christian who goes through the motions, he could have kept working frantically and feverishly, pretending nothing was wrong. We often choose to do this, too, in ministry and business. 

But that’s not what this man does in 2 Kings 6. He admits he lost the borrowed ax head. 

Admitting your relationship with God has grown distant is difficult. Don’t settle for a ordinary walk with Christ. The most difficult yet essential step is humbly praying, “Lord, I’ve lost the enjoyment. I’ve lost the excitement I once had. I’ve lost my cutting edge, and I need it back.”

  1. Discover where you lost it.

Elisha wanted to know exactly where the man lost the ax head. He asked, “Where did it fall?” (2 Kings 6:6 NKJV).

If we want to reclaim our cutting-edge, we must pinpoint where we lost our close relationship with God. We can lose our spiritual edge for many reasons:

    • Distractions and busyness– Life gets busy, and we forget about God.
    • Disobedience – We’re not doing something God wants us to do, or we are doing something God doesn’t want us to do.
    • Pride – We stop depending on God and try living the Christian life (and do ministry) without His power.
    • Laziness – We stop doing the things that keep us close to God.

We must be honest and specific about losing our spiritual energy. Maybe it’s on the list listed above. Perhaps it’s something different. The good news is that when we confess our sin to God, He is faithful to forgive, cleanse, and restore our relationship with Him.

  1. Count on God to restore your closeness with Him.

What Elisha did when the man told him where he lost the ax head is one of the most fascinating parts of this event. “When he showed him the place, Elisha cut a stick and threw it there, and made the iron float” (2 Kings 6:6 NIV).

Of course, the stick didn’t have any spiritual power. It was just a stick. But Elisha used it as an object lesson of his trust in God. He visibly showed that he believed God would restore what this guy lost. Making an ax head float is impossible, but God specializes in the impossible.

After all this time, you might think God can’t get you out of your slump and give you back your cutting edge. But God is ready to do the impossible in your life. You just need to believe that He will. 

  1. Reach out and receive God’s help.

Look what Elisha said next. “‘Grab it,’ Elisha said. And the man reached out and grabbed it” (2 Kings 6:7 NLT). It would have been easy for God to take the ax head directly out of the water and place it in the man’s hand. But He didn’t do that. He brought it to the top of the water and let him grab it.

It’s up to you to return to God. Just reach out and receive God’s help. 

You choose how close to God you want to be. The distance between you and God isn’t the fault of your congregation, employees, mate, or the culture around you. It’s your choice.

The Bible says, “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you” (James 4:8 NKJV).

The God of the Universe loves you and wants you to have a close relationship with him and for Him to have one with you. But getting close to Him is up to you. It’s your choice. You can remain in a spiritual slump (like leaving the ax head floating on top of the water). Or you can draw near to God (like grabbing the ax) and experience His joy of getting back your cutting edge because His Word promises that in His “presence is fullness of joy” (Psalm 16:11 NKJV).

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Do I Have Idle Abilities Not Being Used?

Leadership
May 5, 2025 by Stan Ponz No Comments

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“If the master returns and finds that the servant has done a good job, there will be a reward.”

Luke 12:43 (NLT)

Most leaders have abilities that are idle and not being used. Here are three ways to develop abilities: use them for good and God’s glory.

1. Discern your abilities.

Assess your life, an audit of your abilities. Make a list. In what areas are you good? Know your weaknesses and uniquenesses. Consider the capabilities God has given you.

2. Dedicate your abilities.

Commit them to God for the use He intended. Romans 12:1 says, “…present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.” (NKJV). Pray this prayer, “God, you gave me these abilities. Now I’m going to give them back to you. I want to use them for the purpose for which you intended.”

3. Develop your abilities.

That means to practice, improve, sharpen, and develop. Any ability that God has given you can be increased with practice. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 10:10, “If the ax is dull, and one does not sharpen the edge, then he must use more strength; But wisdom brings success.” (NKJV).

How do you gain skills? Practice. God says a dull ax takes more energy; you need to sharpen your ax. In other words, work smarter, not harder. Honing your abilities—your aptitudes and skills—is a spiritual responsibility.

4. Demonstrate your abilities.

God has invested enormously in you. First, God created you; He then sent His Son Jesus to die for you and divinely designed you with spiritual gifts and personality. God has made a significant investment in your life! And He expects a return on the investment. 1 Peter 4:10, “As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.”  He will ask you one day, “What did you do with what I gave you? How did you use your abilities to honor me, serve others, make a living, and be an example? How did you use them to help other people?”

In Luke 12:43, Jesus said, “If the master returns and finds that the servant has done a good job, there will be a reward.” Luke 12:43 (NLT) That’s the kind of blessing we desire. 

God wants you to use your abilities in the ways He intended. He wants you to experience his blessing.

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